
The morning was quite lovely. L woke up a bit early (6-ish), so I tried to get her to sleep a little longer with some caressing. And then, she turned over to cuddle with me. What

We kept pretty close to the routine I am trying to establish, except naptime didn't really work out too well. When we came back from our morning excursion to check out the brand new Fontbella Plaza (a very chi-chi mall), I began to cook rice and beans. But like last night me cooking seems to trigger for L memories of her foster mom. So she cried and cried while I cooked.
Then, the pineapple yogurt smoothie L & I shared earlier in the day decided not to agree with me. So between trying to cook, her crying, and my upset stomach, it was definitely a low point of the day.
L was so upset, I gave her a bottle to try and settle. She still takes a bottle at nap and bedtime. I'm not going to try and ween her until we are home. Just too much transition, you know? She slept for maybe an hour or so, but woke up twice crying.

We were about to leave for an afternoon walk when I got a call that a friend of mine from work -- who I knew was in Guatemala for the Easter Holidays and who I'd been playing phone tag with - was here with her husband to visit .
She brought flowers and a balloon for L. It really touched me so much. She invited me to a barbecue at her sister's house on Sunday. Gives me something to look forward to!
We were really on a high when we headed out for our afternoon walk. What I didn't know is that rush hour on Fridays here starts at 4 (should have known, being from another capital city).
So the walk was like walking along the track during a NASCAR rally. Certain streets are just impossible to cross with a stroller. I mean these people will NOT slow down for anyone or anything!
We got back safely, but as soon as we walked in the wailing started. I think when we return to the hotel, L knows she will be here another night and it makes her sad -- totally understandable. I definitely had my patience tested. This chica has lungs on her!
I decided, let's try to eat. So I warmed up the rice & beans that were supposed to be lunch. And guess what, not only did she stop crying, she ate every last piece of rice in that bowl, literally!
But once all the food was gone, more crying. So I thought, "she's in a bad mood anyway, might as well give her a shower." Oh yes, a shower. Did I mention there are no bath tubs in this hotel? Believe me, I asked. Well a few gritas (shouts) later, she was cleaned up, dried off, and ready for bed.
Prepping for bed was pretty darn good. We transitioned from couch and puzzles, to bed and lullabies pretty easily. The real highlight of the day came when she looked into my eyes as I sang her own personalized lullaby to her.

Ending the day on that "up" made all the "downs" of the day worth it.
How lucky she is to have such an understanding mom...who knows not only how to comfort her but also why she feels this way...you are creating a bond that will last a lifetime (as Glenn will do soon). L will know how to go to this comfort zone that you are creating as she grows and experiences future difficult times.
ReplyDeleteI look forward to your blog every day. You are very brave to be negotiating this on your own. Mike and I are very happy for your newly expanded family. Stay healthy!! Celeste
ReplyDeleteJudy, She is beautiful!! This is really bringing back the memories for me with the highs and lows. Hang in there!! You are such a great mother.
ReplyDeleteSofia did not have any interest in TV either. The foster mom must not have one. Also, believe it or not, I still giver her a bottle at nap and nighttime.
What hotel are you staying at?
Clare
Thank you all! You don't know how much your supportive comments mean to me!
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