Addendum: We might not be totally free yet!

I just was e-mailing with another woman who adopted from Guatemala and finished up the process herself. She said that "Gina" may still has some documents needed by the Embassy (if we don't have them) .

ARGH!!!!!!!!

Well, it's OK. Today I still accomplished a lot. And I at least have part of the pieces we need for the Embassy and she isn't holding everything (if she's holding anything at all).

I'm going to bed and not worrying about it until I get back from Antigua Guatemala.

Oh yeah, my cousin comes tomorrow night and we are going to Antigua GUatemala for the weekend. Not sure if I will be able to post from there.

One of the hardest days, but one of the best!!!

We are free!! Free from "Gina." I have L's passport and the medical paperwork in a sealed envelope that is required for the visa appointment at the US Embassy.

Oh this day has come. But it was one with lots of drama, waiting, and agonizing until I did it!

So let's start at the beginning. "Gina" was supposed to pick us up around 7:30 to go to get the DNA sample taken.

For those that don't know, this 2nd DNA test is taken to compare L to herself -- just to make sure she is the same child they took a sample from back in 2007 when they compared her to her birth mother.

Anyway, what time did "Gina" finally show up? 8:15!

We first went to get L's photos for her US visa right near the US Embassy. The Embassy is about 5 blocks from my hotel. This took like 10 minutes.

Then we went to the doctor's office where they take the DNA. Across the street from the Embassy. "Gina" said we could also do the medical exam required for L's visa at the same visit.

But she didn't have money to pay for that. She only had money for the passport and the DNA test.

Well, the deal was that she was going to pay for these things and we would pay her.

Whatever! The doctor's visit cost 700 Quetzales (like $90). So I took that out of my bank account - basically using the last money I had in there. This is not our main account, mind you. Just a spending account. I didn't feel safe bringing the ATM card to our main account.

Anyways, we get the money and we are waiting for the doctor. This was actually a nice break for me because, despite her many faults, "Gina" is very good with kids. She, and her brother, played with L and kept her busy. I was kind of annoyed at first, but then I thought, "Man, I've been needing a break. Take advantage."

Well we finally got called, and the doctor (named Roberto) was really really nice. He spoke English - and it was just me and L in there.

He asked about her eating and sleeping habits, took some vitals, and said she seemed all-in-all very healthy. He also commented that her vaccination records are really good.

He also was just so understanding about how long we've been at this adoption, and how good it was that I could come down early to transition.

Then, the took the DNA swabs -- L was really good. I told her it was like brushing her teeth. This seemed to calm her a bit.

Next, the doctor said he wanted to give L a flu shot. He said probably not to totally prevent swine flu, but perhaps to mitigate it. I agreed.

This added 200 Quetzales to the bill. I didn't have it. Yes, even though we have given "Gina" money recently for the delivery of the birth certificate, she didn't have the 200 Quetzales either. Whatever again!

So, my one account was empty & I didn't have the PIN for the other card I had with me.

So I didn't have enough money to pay. Gloria didn't have money (yeah right). So the MD's office held L's passport and medical exam packet until we could pay. The office was closing early - 3 p.m. - because tomorrow is Labor Day here.

Gloria said not to worry. The DNA was paid for and that would be the only thing to hold up the visa appointment. But I just didn't trust her. I wanted to go pick it up, myself, with out her. So I would have all of L's documents.

I tried a lot of things.

• I first called Glenn in a panic, not knowing what to do. He suggested calling Sandra, the sister of my friend Miriam. I left her a panicked message.
• Then I asked Glenn to go home and see if he could find the PIN in our files. He did this.
• So Sandra called me back, and said her daughter could drop off around noon.
• So while Glenn went back, I waited for Sandra's daughter. But by 1:15 they hadn't shown up.
• So I called Sandra and she said it would be more like 2:30.
• So finally I could leave the hotel and try to take money out. But the PIN didn't work!
• Argh! I was near my wits end!

Went back to hotel to wait for Sandra's daughters - Georgia & Jessica. They didn't show up until nearly 3 p.m.

I was still determined to try for the doctor's office -- or least get the name of the doctor (didn't get his last name) so I could call them Monday and tell them not to turn the docs over to "Gina" if she happened to show up with the money.

Well, Georgia & Jessica drove me to the office building. It's only 5 blocks away, but we're talking about major holiday rush hour traffic and the Avenida Reforma is one of those split streets where you have to take three right turns to make a left!

We got there. It was 3:30. I went up and there was one person left in the office -- waiting for FedEx to pick up L's DNA sample!

I paid her -- she seemed a bit confused. She said "Gina" had called to say we would be back Monday. Another WHATEVER! I didn't care. I paid the 200 Quetzales, got the docs & the FedEx tracking number and left.

And then, a huge weight lifted off me!

I still had to walk back towards the hotel and go get something for dinner. I was exhausted. L was exhausted. We had only eaten breakfast (at 10:30 because she couldn't eat before the DNA exam). She had eaten a few cookies and I had a coke while waiting for Georgia & Jessica.

But we are free of "Gina"!!! We have everything we need for the US Embassy appointment. Alleluia!!!(Oh I hope I'm not jinxing myself.)

And can I say that L was so great all today. Even with the flu shot and everything. While we were waiting in the hotel for the third time (once in the a.m. for "Gina" and twice in the p.m. for Georgia & Jessica), she just really was able to play and keep occupied.

Wheelchair access ramps are great fun, can I say?

I felt like I was getting an ulcer every time we had to wait. But L was having a grand old time.

When we got home, I did dinner, bath, and bedtime about 30 minutes earlier than usual. She was exhausted, even though she pretended not to be. And with that weight off me, I had the patience to calm her down and work it out with her - even as she whined and cried.

I feel like we've been through the fire and are now coming out tempered gold.

Another milestone, another exhausting day

As I posted earlier, "Gina" came through and got the documents submitted to the US Embassy. Woohoo!

My day with Lisbeth was a struggle at times. But there were many highlights too!

The morning was slow going. I just could not wake up. I felt like I had hit a wall. Another day waiting to see if "Gina" would show up on schedule!

We did finally get up and down to breakfast. The plan was to go to the Museo Ixchel (the textile museum on the campus of the University of Francisco Marroquin), have a little lunch, nap, and then meet "Gina" at 1:30.

The university, like the Jardin Botanico, is another oasis in this sprawling metropolis. It sits in a lush valley with rich flora everywhere. I forgot how steep a valley it is. Walking down a long, steep hill with a stroller is quite a challenge I tell you.

After the long downward climb, we made it to the museum -- although the elevator was out and the museum is on the top two floors of the building.

It's a small place whose purpose is to preserve and honor the rich textile traditions and history of the indigenous peoples of Guatemala. It has a lot of dioramas, so it is more interesting to kids then some places.

We stayed for maybe 1/2 hour or 45 minutes - including going to the store. L ran around on the plaza outside for a little bit. Then I thought we would stroll a bit through the campus and maybe eat at the campus cafe - which I saw signs for but could not find. (Found the bookstore, however. Books are much cheaper here than at the malls.)

It was getting to lunch time, L was getting cranky, and there was no way I was going to walk up the steep hill. So we got a taxi at the taxi stand there and headed back towards home.

We lunched at San Martin (again!) because I just needed something easy & close - steak quesadilla for me, mini pizza (or "eet-sa" as she says it) for L.

I was trying to get L to nap for a bit before "Gina" was supposed to show at 1:30. Well guess what? She was early again -- by more than 30 minutes. So L had no nap! (Read more about "Gina's" visit in my earlier post)

Once she left, I raced upstairs to e-mail the scanned "orange slip" and our credit card info to the lab (which is in the US) that is going to process the 2nd DNA sample. The woman there sent me the receipt back in like 15 minutes. She will also fax to the lab tomorrow, but I printed a copy to take with me as well.

So we're all set for tomorrow. However, with no nap the afternoon & evening were a little rocky for L and I.

While I was on the computer updating the blog and e-mailing with the lab, L played pretty well by herself. But she wanted to be with me on the computer, so we had to play a game on Sesame Street's Web site.

Then she was just getting wound up, so I decided we just had to get out. To go where? I had no idea.

On the way to nowhere, she fell asleep in the stroller. So I decided I would take advantage of the break and get a gelato at, where else, the Fontabella Plaza. It was 10 minutes of sweet peace I tell you!

She started to stir, so I started walking again. This time I decided we would by some bread at this bakery called Olid. On the way there, my friend Kristen called. It was really nice to chat -- I went around the same block about 3 times while talking to her b/c it is impossible to cross the street here while talking on a phone & pushing a stroller!

What was funny (or not), was that she asked if things weren't more difficult then this blog lets on. You know, I try to be truthful, but I also want to stay positive. But I have to be honest, there are moments nearly every day that are just so difficult.

After we got back from the bakery and into the evening, there were a few of those moments. I had to put L in her first time out. She was playing with her puzzle pieces, pretending to wash them (I guess like dishes) in the box the puzzles came in. Then she threw a couple. I told her no. She threw a couple of more. I told her no again. Then, third time meant time out.

I don't know how to say "time out" in Spanish, but I made her sit for about a minute while she whimpered and wailed.

But you know, after that things were good for some time. Then, dinner time....

I wanted to just order room service because there was no food in the apartment (except bread and rice). I called at 5:30, they said the kitchen didn't open until 6. I called at 6:05, then 6:10. No answer. I couldn't wait any longer b/c the later dinner is, the later bedtime is.

So we went out again, this time to Taco Contento. I got the food to go. Dinner was another struggle. L decided it was more fun to play with her tortilla and chicken rather than eat it. I finally got her to eat a little bit, but she was done.

So then bath time -- I had to pull her out of the bath screaming because she didn't want to get out.

Then bedtime -- well that wasn't so bad. Just about 30 to 40 minutes later than I had wished. Especially since she didn't really have a nap and especially since we have to get up early for this DNA test.

All I can say is, once tomorrow is over I will be SO happy! It's really the last thing I have to rely on "Gina" for. When we go to the Embassy, it can must be Glenn, me and L. We have all the paperwork we need, we don't rely on her for anything. All I need is L's passport, which she is supposed to give me tomorrow.

Of course, we have to pay her the final payment. But everything after tomorrow we can do on our own (the only other thing besides the Embassy appointments is a medical exam. I have the lists of doctors and I can set up that appointment myself!)

Thanks all for hanging in there with me. We should be home by the week of the 18th, God willing!

Everything to Embassy today

Well, "Gina" just came back from the Embassy. I thought we were going together, but apparently not.

Anyways, I scanned in a copy of the "orange slip," -- the authorization from the US Embassy to do the 2nd DNA test on L. (It's on an orange piece of paper and doesn't really look all that official. But hey).

Tomorrow we need to leave bright & early for the 2nd DNA test. Then we wait for a week for results to come back.

I'm going to email the US Embassy right now to let them kow I am here and we would like an appointment for the week of May 18 if possible.

A good day, and more to come

So, as I posted earlier today, we got L's Guatemalan passport today!

We were supposed to be picked up at 8:30 or so. But it wasn't until about 10 a.m. that "Gina's" brother arrived. "Gina" wasn't with him! He said she would meet us at the passport office.

Well, when we got to the passport office she wasn't there. There was some man we sat next to that "Gina's" brother was talking to. Could this be our lawyer? Well, in fact it was! When "Gina" finally showed up she introduced us...oh, OK.

With him present we could get the passport in the morning (not just in the afternoon -- as another mother, who did this process herself, told me). So he and I went in with L. She was SO good. The process only took like an hour or so. It was really efficient.

The best part was when L sat for her picture. She took out all her farm animal puzzle pieces, and set them out on her chair. The woman taking her photo commented on how she came prepared. And then the photo was taken. We waited about 10 minutes or so, and voila, we had her passport!

I, the lawyer, and "Gina" all double checked the spelling of her name, her birthdate, etc. I held it in my hands! But "Gina" needed to keep it for making copies for the U.S. Embassy.

Why we couldn't just make copies at the hotel and then let me keep the passport, I don't know. But it's fine. Tomorrow we will go to the Embassy. And Thursday we will go to get the DNA. I heard "Gina" make the DNA appointment for Thursday a.m. at 8:30.

She also knows I am going out of town this weekend when my cousin Megan comes to visit. We are going to Antigua Guatemala. So "Gina" knows I will need the passport before then.

Anyways, "Gina" and her brother dropped us back at the hotel. We ate lunch and then a try at naptime. But nap was about 15 minutes. So we video Skyped Glenn -- he could see her and hear her say "Daddy". What fun!

We then headed out to hang out at the Dante park. But of course as soon as I sat down, L said "pi pi"! So off to the nearby Oakland Mall (yet again!). There was a story time planned for 4 p.m.

Not that we made it that late. About an hour-and-a-half of the mall was just enough! She did some running around at the mall and playing at a nice toy store, "Teach." So at least it wasn't just window shopping.

After that, we picked up some tamales at the Super Verdura for dinner. Then the usual bath and bed. But L was not going to sleep! Finally I turned off the lights, and told her it was bedtime. In 15 minutes she was asleep.

So, a good day all in all. "Gina" is supposed to pick me up at 1:30 tomorrow to go to go the US Embassy (does that mean 2:30?) I will post as soon as possible after we go there.

Thanks to all for your kind words, your thoughts, your prayers. We are truly in the home stretch now!

Passport is done!

Just a short note -- passport is done! I held it in my hands, but don't have it b/c "Gina" needs to make copies for the US Embassy. Of course, I guess I could have made the copies....

Anyways, it is done. Embassy tomorrow. DNA Thursday (I heard "Gina" make the appointment for the DNA).

Wow - it's really happeinng!

Anticipation, elation, and a little bit of a let down

I am beat tonight! I think it was just the anticipation, elation, and little bit of a let down today -- we were waiting for "Gina" to show up with the new birth certificate and go to get L's new passport.

"Gina" did give me an official copy of L's new birth certificate with our names on it (woo hoo!) but no passport office.


I figured maybe it's because you can't do passports in the afternoon, but another mother who adopted two children from Guatemala and finished up the process herself said you can only do those passports in the afternoon!

So what to think? If things don't happen tomorrow -- that is if we, for some reason, don't get L's passport, Glenn is thinking of coming down to help me get things moving.

One really special coincidence is that today is the 1st birthday of the daughter of my friends Carm & Dave. How nice they can share that date in a special way!

But enough of that, some highlights (well maybe some weren't really highlights) of my day with L.

Went to find a place to have laundry done because having laundry done at the hotel is way expensive. The place around the corner will actually let you do your own laundry. So did that - had to take like 3 walks around the block while waiting.

L did really well, but still trying to wait around for laundry with a 2-and-a-half year old is, let's say, interesting. I have such respect for the single moms who have to do this all the time!

Naptime was a breeze! We both had a bit of a restless night, so I think L was pooped. I dozed a bit but was also receiving calls and texts from "Gina" with updates on her progress on the birth certificate.

Afternoon was anticipation time. "Gina" was to meet us at 2:30. She actually showed up early -- a first. And I had the birth certificate in hand, made a copy, and was really really happy. Except of course that we were not getting L's Guatemalan passport.

Still, she promised me tomorrow -- please please say it's so. Then we hope to go to the Embassy as well. Wednesday would be the day for the 2nd DNA test.

Again, who the heck knows if "Gina" will keep to this schedule. But we will make at least most of this happen this week! I mean, we've waited this long we just can't wait any longer!!!

In the afternoon, L and I went to yet another mall - the swank, big, brand new Oakland Mall. There's a carousel, but I really didn't have the energy. Still, it was a good diversion.

I have to say I can not wait to be home just so I don't have to set foot in another mall for a few months!!

Dinner, bath were both good. Bedtime was a little rocky, but not much. L is getting used to the routine and she knows what to expect and what is expected.

Still, I have just been so tired today that it was a bit of a struggle this evening. Thank goodness my cousin, Megan, is coming for the weekend. We are going to go to Antigua Guatemala for a little getaway. Can't wait for L to meet her prima!

One last wonderful highlight - yesterday and today L has been calling me "mommy" much more often. Again, pointing at me and saying "mommy" and then pointing at herself and saying "Lisbeth." Ahhh so wonderful!!

I have the Birth Certificate!!!!

Just a really short note -- I have L's new birth certificate!

No passport office this afternoon, however. See how it is so hard to trust what "Gina" says?

But something my friend, Elena, said last night should have warned me. She said, "you can do things in the afternoon in Guatemala? In Italy, forget it."

I think "Gina" was just telling me something that she thought I wanted to hear.

Will post more tonight.

A parade, a circus, and a tantrum

Today was a big day! We saw a parade, a circus (well clowns at least) and I experienced the first major L tantrum (one of many to come I am sure).

After a restless night - there was some kind of dance party going on last night until about 1 a.m. -- we awoke slowly.

We headed out to mass and arrived just in time. We only made it through the homily this time because the priest was still talking at 9:40 (this is 9 a.m. mass mind you). So, again, I hope I'll be forgiven.

We then went to Los Alpines again for breakfast. Everything was going swimmingly except L fell off her chair. I was totally thinking she should be in the chair with arms. But did I follow my instincts? So the meal ended with tears, but soon we came upon a diversion - a parade!

As I found out last week, they close off Avenida Reforma on Sunday mornings for people to stroll, run, and bike. But today there were two things happening - a foot race and a parade to celebrate the eradication of polio (which I guess happened three years ago?).

So we stopped to watch the marching bands. Everything was going fine, and then it came. The first real tantrum since I've been here. I've experienced her so upset that she pukes, so sad she wails, but this was a real terrible-two tantrum - flailing of arms, writhing, hitting and pinching. What was it about? Who knows?

And to think that last night while I was chatting with my friend, Aileen I said I hadn't seen a real tantrum yet (because with six nieces and four nephews, I have seen some tantrums I tell you!). But today was the first and I'm sure not the last.

So after she had calmed down, we watched until the parade ended. Then more tears. But we got "home" and all was OK. Naptime was nice -- I even slept for a while. I'm not totally sure she slept, but she was quiet for about an hour and a half.

The afternoon I had planned for us to go to my fave mall, Fontabella Plaza, because they were having a circus for kids. So we headed there and really enjoyed watching the clowns. My favorite was Karim, the main clown. L, while not really expressive, was certainly intent on watching all the action.

After the clowns, and some window shopping. L was ready to return home. What a day! We had a dinner of left overs, a short bath, a little Jorge el Curioso, and off to sleep -- before 7:30 woo hoo!

I had extra time tonight to chat with Glenn and my friend Elena. It has been a good day (well, except the tantrum part).

I hope tomorrow is an even bigger day, in terms of the adoption. Our facilitator is supposed to get L's new birth certificate in the morning and then all of us go get L's Guatemalan passport in the afternoon. I am praying extra hard that it all goes smoothly.

Please keep us in your thoughts and prayers. I will post as soon as possible tomorrow!

Getting our groove back?

Things seem to be looking up. Again, I'll believe it all when I see it -- but a feeling of hope really brightens your day.

And today was a bright day. L. woke up earlier than she had been over the last few days.

She actually cried a little for her "mama" and "papa," and I soothed her and told her I knew she missed them. I've been referring to me and Glenn as "mommy" and "daddy" to differentiate.

Even though I was pretty tired, I was hopeful that the earlier rising time would mean an earlier bedtime.

After breakfast, we headed to the Los Próceres mall, which is about 4 blocks away and much bigger than the Fontabella Plaza (if not as chi-chi).

We walked all three floors, very slowly, looking at all the stores (although most weren't open yet). We actually saw families with strollers - something I never see during the weekday in the business-heavy area of Zone 10 (not a lot of residences here).

On the third floor of Los Proceres is a little arcade with lots of kiddie rides. Yeah! I got a few tokens and L rode something like 6 different rides. She loved it!

We were just sitting down for a cookie and some espresso when I got a text from "Gina" our facilitator saying she was at the hotel. I called her to meet me at the mall. This is all detailed in my short update from earlier today.

After the mall, we headed to the supermarket to buy something for lunch & dinner. L. fell asleep on the way to there, so not boding well for naptime later.

Lunch was bean soup (from a can) with rice. Man, I miss Glenn's cooking. But hey, L. ate it up so that's a good thing, no?

Naptime, what naptime? She was having none of it. I dozed a bit as she played on the bed. But after about an hour or so of that I gave up.

She played very quietly while I got online and checked e-mail, etc. Then we played some online games from Baby TV and Discovery Kids.
I was too tired for our usual afternoon excursion. So I watched a little TV as she played.
Then I started my chicken stew -- she watched as I chopped vegetables.

I let that cook for about an hour, and she was starting to get fussy. So I pulled out the sticker book I brought with me. She hadn't really seen if before and was facinated with layering the stickers one on top of the other.

Dinner was a real hit. She ate like ALL the chicken. I ended up with skin and bones, literally. She is going to be so loving it when she had some of Glenn's roast chicken.

Then a bath in her little bathtub. I am so glad I bought that thing! She loves the water and I don't have to try to wash her in the shower.

Bedtime was really easy tonight. She even told me I didn't need to be in the room as she chilled a bit with the "Backyardigans" and then "Lazy Town" (I really like the former, hate the latter).

I came back and she was really mellow. The highlight of the day came when she touched her hand to her chest and said "Lisbeth" and then touched it to my chest and said "mommy." Shehas said mommy to me before -- but this time seemed the most direct and definite! Oh how wonderful!

When she fell asleep at 7:30, I was gleeful! I will have some time of my own tonight (and not too late)

Talked to both Glenn and my friend Aileen tonight. I'm just basking in the good vibes of today. Who knows what tomorrow will bring, but I can worry about it then.

Short update

This is just a short update. I met with the facilitator this morning. She showed me the sealed envelope from Central Records that was addressed to the local records office where L. was born. She said she got them to release the record early.

So the plan is for her to go to San Juan Sacatepequez (where L was born) early Monday morning to get the new birth certificate. She promised to get an extra copy for us.

Monday afternoon around 2 or 2:30 she will pick me and L up to go get L's new passport. Then Tuesday we can submit our documents to the U.S. Embassy for processing.

If, and that is a big if, this all happens, we might have our appointment for L's visa to travel to the U.S. as early as mid May? Not really sure. Trying to figure out timelines but this internet connection is so slow I can't load my e-mail with those estimates on it.

We also talked about not being in contact with the foster family any more while I am here. I agreed to that. I said I would send a note, etc. to the foster family once we are home. I
will probably send once we have our visa appointment scheduled.

Look for my "life with L" update tonight.

The secret garden, and a ray of hope?

This is going to be short because I am absolutely exhausted. One, because I could not fall asleep last night (was it the 5 o'clock expresso?). Two, because we took an excursion tothe Jardin Botánico (the Botanical Garden) which is a lot father away from my hotel than I realized.

Before heading out I finally called Central Records (RENAP). The contact there said our "notario" had been by and that the file should be ready Thursday. So I texted "Gina" this info, and she said she would have the birth certificate today and we can get L's new passport of Monday. Needless to say, I was confused so I texted her back. No reply.

I had read that the Jardin Botánico was the first of its kind in Central America and that it was definitely worthwhile to see. I don't dispute this. But if I had known I would be trekking in the heat for like 45 minutes or so, I would have taken a taxi!

It is a lovely place one inside. It is like a secret garden right there on the Avenida Reform amidst the non-ending hustle and bustle of Guatemala City.

Inside the walls is a lovely oasis from the dirt, dust, pollution and traffic all around you. Butterflies flit by, birds scratch in the trees, paths meander by lovely arbors in full purple bloom and a pond where turtles sun themselves.

It only costs 10 Quetzales (about $1.20 currently), so if I do decide to return I think we can splurge on the taxi ride.

The walk back was even more of an adventure. I decided not to walk back on Ave. Reforma to try an avoid traffic - hah! That's a good one. I of course had forgotten L's water thermos (the first time this whole trip). So finally we stopped a t a vendor to buy some cold bottled water.

I knew I couldn't make it all the way back to the hotel, so I decided to stop at Los Alpines for lunch. That was fine, but the waitress disappeared after we were done so we waited like 15 or 20 minutes to pay the bill.

By the time we were leaving, it was pouring rain. I don't have the "umbrella" part of the umbrella stroller, so I just had to hold my umbrella over L. I was soaking wet when we got back. Just her legs were a little wet.

There was time for a late nap. I dozed a little but I wanted to have my alone time for a bit. I talked with my friend Carm and with Glenn for a while. It was good to chat.

I was just too tired to make dinner, so we got some savory pastries from San Martin to bring home. I also bought a large dish bin to serve as a little bath tub for L. She totally loved her little bañerita. So glad I got it!

There was some nice dancing at dinner time because I had the "Backyardigans" on in the background. L. both danced in her seat and twirled around in the living room. Very fun!

Bed time was marathon - something like 1 hour 45 minutes. I nearly lost my mind and am now writing this through shear exhaustion because I just need to vent!. This is one of the most wonderful times of my life, I know that for sure. But it is one of the most difficult too.

During the evening, "Gina" called and said she was actually going Monday morning to get the birth certificate and Monday afternoon we would go get L's new passport. Is this the truth? I really hope so! She gets a "milestone" payment when the new BC is done, so I know that's a motivating factor for her.

Did she somehow get RENAP to release the file earlier? I have heard of other lawyers/facilitators doing such with some sweet talking. Who knows?

I really hope what she is saying is the truth, but I never know what to expect from her. If it is I will post ASAP that we have the BC and passport. Once we have those, it's to the US Embassy baby!

Back to home base

So where did I leave off yesterday?

Oh yes, it was afternoon. What did we do then? We went for a walk on the other side of Avenida Reforma to Zone 9. But doing this at rush hour, not such a good idea. Still, I discovered both a Pollo Campero (the "McDonald's" of Guatemala) and a McDonald's that both have play centers. I know where we are going for lunch tomorrow.

So came back to "getaway" hotel -- which I can now say was the Westin Camino Real -- and had dinner.

Bath time was next -- how fun! I think I'm going to have to buy a bucket or something to put L in at our "home" hotel. I just don't think showers are as fun, no?

Bedtime was relatively painless. I read for a bit after she fell asleep. However, at about 4 a.m. she started stirring. I went to rub her back to soothe her back to sleep and she was soaking wet! The Huggies pull-ups I bought leaked. (I had a whole bunch of much better pull-ups from our shower back at the "home" hotel of course.)

But she didn't really wake up at all as I wiped her down, changed her clothes, took the sheets off the bed, and then lay her back down on a towel. It took me forever to get back to sleep, but she was fine.

So now I'm caught up -- what about today? Well, pretty routine, which was nice.

Breakfast, then playtime while I packed to go home base. Once "home," everything went as I said, pretty routine. So instead of boring you with the details, I will just mention the highlights.

Playtime at the Pollo Campero was really fun. There was another little girl about L's age. They didn't really play together, but they were both having a good time kicking and throwing balls in the kid-sized basketball court. Lunch was pretty yummy too!

Naptime was late, but I got caught up on e-mails and such. Decided to send flowers and a letter to the foster family via a service I used to send a gift basket at Christmas. They should be able to deliver in a couple of days.

The evening was nice -- we went to the Super Verdura for dinner items, hung out at my fave mall Fontabella Plaza at the Cafe Barista (I am becoming such a mall rat there).

L. helped me shell peas and then I cooked dinner, which didn't turn out too well. Thank goodness for pasta with mantequilla (butter, or "quílla") as L. says it.

Bedtime was late and took FOR-E-VER! I called G so late he was like totally asleep already. So, we'll talk tomorrow (We had already talked earlier in the day).

I realized today that I have been here a week and two days. And I'm totally surviving. Not only can I do this... I am doing this! I'm a mommy. It's really happening. Woo hoo!

Pray that tomorrow that birth certificate gets issued -- or least we get out of Central Records (aka RENAP) and get the birth certificate early next week. I was going to call Central Records today, but just never found the time!

A short post today

I am doing a short daytime post because my internet connection at the "getaway" hotel runs out tonight and I don't feel like paying for another day. Why is it that the expensive hotels charge for internet?

Last night was a bit rough, as I wrote. L woke up at 3:30 and was fussing and didn't even want me to touch her. But a bottle settled that & we were back to sleep pretty soon.

Because of the late night, we slept in. Since we got a late start to the day, the routine is going to be thrown off. But that's OK. Naptime already failed, so maybe we get to bed at the regular time.

After breakfast it was more wonderful time at the pool. We stayed about an hour. It's probably our last change to use a pool for some time, so I allowed us to linger for a while. I asked one of the guys who works there to take our photo -- you can see he shouldn't quit his day job ;)

After the pool it was off to a late lunch at one of Glenn & mine fave restaurants, La Boqueria. Glenn hit it off really well with the chef there, Cristina. She was surprised at how big L is, gave me her card, and told me to call if I needed anything at all.

Lunch was yummy rabbit and chicken croquets. Hmm good!

After lunch, we went to the Fontabella Plaza because I thought there was a story time there today. But apparently it's on Sunday. So we can check that out then.

Walking back to the hotel, L fell asleep in the stroller. I tried to transfer her to the bed but she awoke. Even a "pacha" (bottle) didnt do it.

So now she is playing with the light switches in the room. I tried to get a hold of the person at Central Records, but to no avail. Will try with aplomb tomorrow.

Tonight will be the last night in the luxe "getaway" hotel. We'll miss it in many ways. But I think I will be happy to not be living in one room anymore.

Will post tomorrow night.

Like living two lives

It's like I'm living two lives here.

There's the one full of giggles & making monkey sounds, of minor tantrums and boundary setting. The one that is a joy to live but not by any means easy.

Then there's the other life, a life of stress, of miscommunication and deception. The life that is in many ways thrashing about in its death throes.

The first life is forever parenthood with L. The other is the process of adopting her.

Not that it's all not worth it. It totally is. But sometimes I just think to myself -- why, why, why does this have to be so hard.

Yesterday's drama had really drained me and I was pretty darn tired last night. Got a call from a friend, Laila, and then had my nightly chat with Glenn. I didn't sleep well probably due to the stress.

This morning started nicely. Up and then out and about to the hotel restaurant for breakfast. Then we walked around the hotel a bit to look at all the stores.

We returned to the room. I sent a text to our facilitator to make sure she was going to Central Records (aka RENAP) today. Se said yes. The day was going well so far

After a brief excursion out, we headed to the pool. That was tons of fun. L loved every minute being in the kiddie pool with her hippo bath toy. We lunched poolside.

Even getting her down for her nap was pretty easy. A little bit of play time. A little bit of baby TV. Bottle and she was out.

While she was playing before naptime I chatted with Glenn. He wouldn't be able to call the foster parents tonight due to a confluence of car issues and weather. So, I decided to call the foster mom "Bella."
That's when I realized the "other" life ain't over yet.

I called and got through and told her that Glenn could not call her, but when he came down we would figure things out with them (like maybe letting them see L one more time before we leave and also clear up some business with the facilitator).

But then she said that "Gina," the facilitator, had told the foster parents that they were going to come today to get L. This is what the foster dad had said yesterday, and what I thought I cleared up with "Bella" during our stairwell chat yesterday.

All I could say was "no" and I would talk to "Gina".

So I texted "Gina" to tell her "Bella" had told me they were coming and I wasn't go to be there. What did she reply? "Perfecto." WTF!

I tried to call "Bella" about 10 times but never got through. I tried to text her as well but her phone is not set up to accept text messages.

I don't know who's playing who or what this game is, but I am glad I am not at my main hotel!

Please keep us in your thoughts and prayers. I think this is some kind of fight over money with us and L in the middle. I know we are L's legal parents, so there is no way I am letting her out of my sight. And when I return to the main hotel -- if they show up I will not let them see L at all or even talk to them face-to-face.

I hate that things are happening this way. I feel like I am complicit in all this deception somehow. And now I'm living like some kind of fugitive!

Back to the first life - the life with L!

After nap, we sort of meandered. I had it in my mind to courier the foster family a letter stating very plainly that we were not returning L to them. But the DHL office said the address I had was not complete.

I went back to the hotel, double checked the Family Court record I have with me listing "Bella's" address and it was one & the same as the one I wrote down.

So what to do -- more calls to "Bella's" phone but no answer. Decided needed to get a new phone card as my Guatemalan cell was running out of minutes. L and I went to a nearby mall for that. I chatted with Glenn a bit. Then I just decided to come back to the "getaway" hotel for dinner.

Dinner was tasty - I've taught L the word "yummy" and now she says that and makes "yum yum" sounds while eating. Is this kid like after my heart or what?

The post dinner play time was very nice. She was having a good time showing her baby the pool from the window, dancing to some music, making monkey sounds... really a joy!

I think by bedtime I was just emotionally drained. I was so cranky when L requested a bath (pointing at the bath tub and saying "ba ba" for agua). I let her have her bath which she enjoyed immensely (again, accompanied by "hippo"). But trying to get her to sleep took like and hour and a half.

The thing is, she wasn't being fussy at all but just super playful, cheery... and wide awake. Someone once told me that bedtime is for parents. Now I totally understand what they mean.

I had a sleepy conversation with Glenn while trying to get her to finally sleep. It took two different TV shows, some hair brushing time (however, when I tried to take the hair brush away she pinched me rather hard and I had to rebuke her), and then just turning off the lights and saying "buenas noches."

I almost drifted off, but I really wanted to post this ... it is totally keeping my sanity (fragile as it is) in tact.

High drama

I didn't want any drama today, but that's what I got.


It started with a phone call from L's foster father telling me they were coming tomorrow. Panicked call to Glenn, and he suggested I move to another hotel for a couple of days. The foster family thought I was here for a visit, not the final pick up. Our facilitator isn't the best when it comes to being upfront and truthful!

So after getting L dressed, going to breakfast -- a real Chapin breakfast of eggs, bacon, toast, and refried black beans which L ate up -- and playing for a bit in the room, we headed to see what hotels had room available for tonight and tomorrow.

Now, I won't post where we are going just to be safe. But it does have a pool, so that should be a good diversion.

After booking a place, we walked down a street we hadn't before and came upon the Plaza Dante Alighieri maintained by the Dante Society of Guatemala. It was nice to find a little green space with very few cars driving by and no temptation to buy something (like at the Fontabella).

After that, we went to buy some staples at the grocery store and then back home for lunch.

Our lunch of left over pasta with meat sauce was a big hit with L. She really is getting more and more content every day. There have just been so many moments when I look at her and fall a little more in love.

So trying to keep with the routine, about half an hour later we got in bed for naptime. But L was in a really playful mood. She discovered how to turn the lights on and off with the switch above the headboard. She was so proud, and she did it about 20 times.

She was just having a grand old time giggling, making lots of funny noises, and not settling down. While I was enjoying it, it was also testing my patience because I know she really needed a nap.

I guess it's just one of the many challenges of parenthood. You want to let your kids
continue playing when they are so content. But you have to be the one to set up rules, boundaries, and somehow keep your sanity at the same time!

Finally I said, that's it, time to sleep. Got her bottle and she actually settled pretty quickly.

But then I got a call -- her foster mom was at my hotel. We will call her "Bella". I was IMing with Glenn when I got the call. I was very very nervous, but told her she could come up to my floor to speak outside the room. Thank God L was sleeping. If she had been awake I don't know what I would have done.

The foster family is upset because (1) they were not told I was here for the final pick up trip (they thought I was coming for a few days visit) and (2) our facilitator owes them money.

So while the talk was tense, and "Bella" was very upset and sad about the situation, in the end I was kind of glad it happened. Because now it was totally in the open that L is with me (and Glenn) forever more! "Bella" said she knew we loved L.

I had been thinking of calling her before I came down, and now I really wished I had. I knew something was up. But I can't change the past, right?

Glenn is going to call the foster family tomorrow with a good friend of ours who is from Panama. I hope with that call all tensions with them will finally be smoothed out.

So after that little visit, I just had to wait for L to wake up from her nap and then our little getaway to the other hotel could begin. I was packed and ready. I let her get all the grogginess out and then we were off.

I told our main hotel/apartment we were "going to a friends" for a couple of days. I just don't want another unannounced visit just right now!

Our excursion just a couple of blocks away was a bit humorous. Here I am, this harried woman pushing a child in a stroller while dragging a duffel bag behind me. At least the bad has wheels. I think the people at the "getaway" hotel thought I was crazy.

L fussed when we first entered our room. Poor girl has no home right now! But when I pointed out the pool to her through the window, I got an excited "baba!" from her. "Baba" is how she pronounces agua.

So down to the pool, which was a real hit. Splashing is apparently a favorite passtime of hers. It felt really refreshing and relaxing there - our little oasis in the middle of the madness.

After pool time we needed to eat. I needed something close and easy, so off to McDonald's again. Am I indoctrinating her in the ways of American life or what? I felt a bit bad about our 2nd trip there in less than a week, but I need to give myself a break, right?

Once back in the room, it was bath time. I have to say I am really thankful to have a tub for a couple of nights. She was great in the bath. No tears, although there was a "pipi" incident!

Bedtime tonight was special. Once we were done with her few minutes of tele "lele" (a channel called Baby TV which I think is awesome for bedtime) and her book, I sang her some lullabies. She looked into my eyes and even started to caress me as I sang (as I have been caressing her). I think she's beginning to realize I'm really not that bad!

After bedtime is when I realized the value of having an apartment while here. I had to go
into the bathroom to talk on the phone and write this blog entry! I mean, you only have one room in a hotel and when the baby's sleeping, where else can you go?

Now, as far as the paperwork goes I was in contact with the Solicitor General's office (aka PGN) and our facilitator and it looks like the revised paperwork was picked up and will be submitted to Central Records (aka RENAP) tomorrow. Please pray that the new birth certificate is issued this week.

Once we get her new birth certificate, we can get L's Guatemalan passport and then submit everything to the U.S. Embassy. Then it's all in the hands of the U.S. Government which is aleast more reliable than or facilitator!

So while it was a day of high drama, it was also a day of fun & adventures with my little one. I'm hoping, praying, crossing my fingers that this drama is behind us and all we have to do is make it through our days until the day we come home.

Misa y una fiesta

Today was a big day for us both. I realized how much kindness there can be in human hearts.

We headed out a bit earlier than usual because I wanted to make 9 a.m. mass. However, breakfast and the walk didn't take nearly as long as I thought because (a) there was no one else in the restaurant and (b) there was no traffic -- meaning no long waits trying to cross the streets.

So, we arrived at the Inmaculada Concepcion like 40 minutes early! Luckily it was a nice morning, so we just hung out in the plaza outside and kept ourselves busy with drawing on L's Doodle Pro and playing with her babydoll.

I know L is used to going to mass, because she was really good. Also, she knows the names of Maria ("adía") and Jesús ("etús") -- my Mom will be happy about that!

We made it until Communion, but she needed to go "pi pi" again & the bathrooms at this church are really bad! So we left -- I hope I will be forgiven.

So we went to a pastilleria/restaurant called Los Alpines - mostly to use the bathroom, but hey nothing wrong with a little treat after mass.

I ordered an apfelstrudel and what I thought was going to be a pear Danish. But the latter was more like a pear torte. L. ate the entire torte herself!

Maybe that explains why she was having nothing of naptime when we got back. I tried, but I guess there was just too much sugar. But it was OK. I think I'm getting used to the fussiness and, at the same time, her boughts of sadness seem to be getting shorter.

I knew my friend from work, Miriam, was going to come pick us up around 2. So by 1:30 we were getting dressed and Miriam called. Her cousin, Jessica, was coming to get us.

So we finished dressing and headed downstairs to wait (and to get out of the cleaning staff's way -- the place did need a good clean).

Outside on the usually traffic-choked Avenida Reforma was a much different scene. On Sundays, they shut down this main thoroughfare so people can bike, walk their dogs, or just stroll. It was very pleasant to pass the time watching families go by. Well, we did have to take two turns around the very small lobby to break up the wait.

Jessica and her husband drove us to the house of Miriam's sister, Dora. The family was so, so nice to us. The greeted us as one of their own. There were lots of cousins, a few children, and two adorable babies.

L was pretty quiet at first, even slow to start eating. But once she started it was hard to stop her. She loved the tortillas, the grilled meat, and especially the "ensalada Rusa" -- basically a potato salad with mayo, ham, peas, and carrots. I loved the homemade guacamole and this sort of fried empanada-type food.

L really started to warm up when one of the family invited her to play with another girl about L's age and an older girl of about 10. There was play-doh (which L really liked), a Mr. Potato Head, and a coloring book. L did not want to share the crayons, but there were no fights thank goodness.

The party ended with some tres leches cake. I decided to share a piece with L since she had eaten a lot already. It was so yummy, I wished I had my own piece. But it was probably best for the both of us.

Miriam's husband, Benedicio, and another relative drove me back. Three different family members gave me their contact information and told me not to hesistate to call if I needed anything.

I just can't express how thankful I am to this family. I hope I can return the kindess to them, or to some one else in need like me, someday.

When we got back in there were lots of tears. Again, coming "home" is always a bit difficult. But the tears really didn't last that long. I have to admit, I used TV again.

"Jorge el Curioso" and "Backyardigans" really helped me out. Especially Jorge because L and I have been practicing our monkey imitations. She's getting really good!

I turned of the TV promptly after "Backyardigans," and we read and sang songs til she finally drifted off to sleep. Pretty painless I have to say.

This has been the best day yet. Pray for us tomorrow as the Solicitor General's office (aka PGN) is supposed to release our corrected adoption opinion tomorrow that can be taken to Central Records (aka RENAP) on Tuesday to complete the request for L's new birth certificate. If all goes well, the certificate will be out by end of this week. But I'm bracing myself for another delay.

Tomorrow will probably be just a routine day, but hey I'll take that over drama.

I laughed, I cried

Today was actually a really great day, until the end.

Last night we had a bump. She went to bed fine, and then when I came to bed she was restless for about an hour. Was it an omen that night time might be something of a challenge going forward?

My routine is starting to work pretty well (OK sort of). I'm not really a routine type of person, mind you. BUt I'm trying to do this so as to manage day-to-day expectations. However, as those mothers out there know, you have to be flexible with a 2-and-a-half year old.

The morning was nice -- shared some nice cuddle time before slowly waking up. Our breakfast of "pan tostada francesa" (square pancakes really) was a big hit with L. We got four pancakes and she ate 2 and a half of them!

Playtime after breakfast was great. I made a Skype call to my friend Elena, and L and I chatted with her and her daughter (her husband Maurizio too). We even saw their dog on camera!

But my busy Miss L couldn't sit for long. So she played very happily by herself as I chatted for a bit longer with Elena. It was nice to see a familiar face, even if on video.

Can I tell you I thank God for the Internet and cell phones every day. I can talk to Glenn, keep in touch with friends and family, and of course blog. All of these things are really helping. Especially after rough evenings like tonight.

After my chat time, we headed back to the Fontabella Plaza because there is an open space there where I thought she could run around and I didn't really explore the stores the other day.


There was an oversized chess game going on and they were having a free art class for kids (but it was for 5 and up only). I found a toy store and a really nice book store called Sophos. Bought a toy xylophone (which we call a marimba -- this is Guatemala you know) and some books.

I have to say toys & books are expensive here! Still, you can't find these books at home. Almost all the kids books in Spanish at home are just translations of English-language books. The books here are mostly from Spain and Argentina.

We then had some sweets (capuccino for me, chocolate gelato for L) at the Cafe Barista there. I have to admit, I ate about half the gelato.

Then is was back home for lunch and a nap. When we got back to the hotel, there was the usual fussiness from L. But a visit from one of the hotel cleaning staff was a good diversion while I prepared lunch.

She ate well, took her bottle, and fell asleep for a good long nap. I dozed a little myself before washing the lunchtime dishes. I kind of chilled and enjoyed the quiet time.

After nap, we read one of her new books. There's a lion in it and we practiced our lion roars and our expressions showing how afraid we are of the lion. We had a lot of laughs when she stuck her foot between the pages of the book.

Then it was off for an afternoon walk to the Econo Mart (or is it Super Econo?). I needed another gallon of water (and the closer and nicer Super Verdura closes at 2 on Saturdays).

After that excursion I explored the other side of Avenida Reforma (well I went like one block further) and found the Plaza Espana. A big circle with four little park-like settings along it. But I soon turned towards home because I was getting tired.

By the time I was nearing the hotel, the much emptier streets of the Zona Viva on a Saturday afternoon felt a little lonely too me. While the hustle and bustle of Monday-Friday is a bit much, the weekend sparseness just kind of got to me.

I think this put me in a cranky mood, and L too. Because the evening was just full of crankiness on both sides. She wanted to get in bed at like 6, refused to eat dinner, couldn't settle. Well, "Cars" on the Disney Channel worked for awhile but it didn't last (Mary Ellen should appreciate that little tidbit).

So I let her play while I finally ate what was by now a cold dinner. When she saw me eating, she wanted some. But it was not too much to her liking. I improvised mac & cheese again (this time in the microwave), and that fared a little better with her.

Finally I decided it was just time for bed no matter what. Not too long after she settled, I settled, and she drifted off to sleep.

My microphone and internet connection decided not to work when I tried to call Glenn on Skype. But my Guatemalan cell phone worked just fine. So nice to hear his voice.

My patience was really tried this evening. But we made it. Tomorrow there is mass and the barbecue. It will be a good day.

Ups and downs

Today was a day of ups and downs - just an ordinary day in the life of a 2-and-a-half year old.







The morning was quite lovely. L woke up a bit early (6-ish), so I tried to get her to sleep a little longer with some caressing. And then, she turned over to cuddle with me. What emotions poured over me? So many, I can't even put them into words. We stayed dozing for another hour or so.


We kept pretty close to the routine I am trying to establish, except naptime didn't really work out too well. When we came back from our morning excursion to check out the brand new Fontbella Plaza (a very chi-chi mall), I began to cook rice and beans. But like last night me cooking seems to trigger for L memories of her foster mom. So she cried and cried while I cooked.

Then, the pineapple yogurt smoothie L & I shared earlier in the day decided not to agree with me. So between trying to cook, her crying, and my upset stomach, it was definitely a low point of the day.

L was so upset, I gave her a bottle to try and settle. She still takes a bottle at nap and bedtime. I'm not going to try and ween her until we are home. Just too much transition, you know? She slept for maybe an hour or so, but woke up twice crying.

Once she awoke for good from her short nap the day took a turn for the better. We were playing for some time and it was just a lot of fun. She was talking up a storm, pushing her babydoll around in its toy stroller and the teddy bear around in its toy stroller (I brought one down and the foster parents brought one with her).

We were about to leave for an afternoon walk when I got a call that a friend of mine from work -- who I knew was in Guatemala for the Easter Holidays and who I'd been playing phone tag with - was here with her husband to visit .

She brought flowers and a balloon for L. It really touched me so much. She invited me to a barbecue at her sister's house on Sunday. Gives me something to look forward to!

We were really on a high when we headed out for our afternoon walk. What I didn't know is that rush hour on Fridays here starts at 4 (should have known, being from another capital city).

So the walk was like walking along the track during a NASCAR rally. Certain streets are just impossible to cross with a stroller. I mean these people will NOT slow down for anyone or anything!

We got back safely, but as soon as we walked in the wailing started. I think when we return to the hotel, L knows she will be here another night and it makes her sad -- totally understandable. I definitely had my patience tested. This chica has lungs on her!

I decided, let's try to eat. So I warmed up the rice & beans that were supposed to be lunch. And guess what, not only did she stop crying, she ate every last piece of rice in that bowl, literally!

But once all the food was gone, more crying. So I thought, "she's in a bad mood anyway, might as well give her a shower." Oh yes, a shower. Did I mention there are no bath tubs in this hotel? Believe me, I asked. Well a few gritas (shouts) later, she was cleaned up, dried off, and ready for bed.

Prepping for bed was pretty darn good. We transitioned from couch and puzzles, to bed and lullabies pretty easily. The real highlight of the day came when she looked into my eyes as I sang her own personalized lullaby to her.

Ending the day on that "up" made all the "downs" of the day worth it.